Hey gals. I have a conflict. A female friend of mine told me she is a staunch femanist, despises the male gender with a few exceptions, and strongly dislikes the idea of a guy liking her, much less even thinking about asking her out. Then there's my guy friend who likes her a lot and wants to go out with her (and I asked him how serious...like could marriage be in the future and he was like, yes? I don't know! It's up to what God wants). They both have told me things in secrecy (and I guess by telling you guys I've broken the secrecy...but you guys are neutral third parties!) and I really want them to know each other's feelings but I don't know how to go about doing that without devulging secrets. Also, both has a hint about the other's feelings, but they are not sure. I really hate being in the middle of this and would rather not deal with it, but they keep coming to me asking me about stuff. What do you guys think I should do? I want them to talk to each other without me and share their feelings, but that might ruin their friendship. Sigh. Oh yes, and thanks for posting the New Years stuff Ann! I like scrolling through it every so often just to remind myself of the fun we had.
Thanks gals,
Al
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Haha.
I find it funny how she claims to be a strong feminist yet she shows some concern and curiosity about who that "mystery man" is. My suggestion? I would keep telling her what a great guy he is and how he shows interest in her. Even though she claims to despise all man, she must realize that the human race depends on BOTH parties, haha. So she has no idea who he is? I would just keep talking to her about it...ease her into it, and eventually, you're going to have to step out of it and let the two take care of it.
I'm sorry -- that's probably some crappy advise, and not entirely clear, but I'm sure you know what to do, Al. It must be difficult being in the middle, but it seems as though these two need some mediating for the time being.
~Adriana
Hello hello!
Tell the guy to just talk to her about it. Pretend that you don't know your friend is a staunch feminist.. and keep it from a neutral perspective. If he likes her, he should talk to her and not ask you for info about her (not sure if he does that.. actually). Cause if she said she doesn't like guys with FEW exceptions.. he might be that exception! I go for cheering on the guy in asking! If he never tells her, he'll never know if she likes him back.
If you encourage the guy to tell the girl, that way you won't have to divulge any secrets! Just tell him to talk to her if he really likes her that much! And let them take care of it from there??
If it gets too much for you, let them know that you don't want to be caught in the middle of it.. or you're uncomfortable with being in the middle.
PS. Maybe she secretly likes him and is flattered :P Playing hard to get??? :D haha .. Who knows?
Ann
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